That's right, I love my wife. Something I thought I would never get to say... Seriously, all through my youth, twenties and half of my thirdies. I never really had a relationship or dated much. I was the nerd, dork and litteral Boy Scout when all the girls in knew wanted the bad boys. Hell, I look back on it now and I sometimes think I did everything I could to repel the opposite sex. That with being somewhat awkward I am sure didn't help... Not saying I didn't date at all, I just don't think that the experiences could be called stellar by any stretch of the imagination. I also had this thing in my 10's, 20's and 30's where I was taking care of family as well as had the mindset that I should not bring someone in my life until I get my own stuff worked out. By my 30's taking care of people that really should be able to take care of themselves and the "Get my crap together" got old and I was going nowhere fast.
When I entered my thirties, I guess that my biological clock started getting me to notice it. I got it in my head that I really need to find someone. So, I did what anyone would do in 2010 that had not been in any kind of dating scene... I joined sites the likes of Plenty of Fish, Match and a few others. Funny enough I got turned down by eharmony.com completely (The site literally said "We have no one that would be a match for you, so don't waist your time) if that is not a confidence booster I don't know what is. So anyway, I joined these sites and it took a bit but I did go on some dates and a few, I tried so short term relationships but none of them really lead anywhere. I came away learning two things, one I can't force things or make the heart want something it doesn't and dating websites are not the answer at least for me. I also learned very quickly about what I wanted, what I could live with and what I couldn't... And what I couldn't live with for some reason seemed to be anyone (strait females) born or raised in California or at least in the 250 mile radious of where I lived.
I continued trying to find someone until the end of the Summer of 2014. I had gotten to the point where I was just done with the whole scene. The last women that I had gone on like two dates with, at the end of the second date asked if we could stop by CVS on the way to me dropping her off and proceeded to fill an entire shopping cart, saying nothing to me about anything until we got to the cashier, then proceeded to turn to me and expected me to pay for it all... After that I was just done, I even had a long discussion with a good friend letting him know that I was done, telling him if its meant to be, it will happen when it happens if it ever does, and I also went to all the dating sites where I had a profile deleting them all.
Just when I completed all of this and my mind was completely set... There she came, like saying "here I am, what took you so long?." The funny thing is, I already knew her but she never crossed my mind because she at one time was my student... Sounds bad but it's not, I had worked for a Private College (Calling it a College is a stretch, it was more of a Career School then anything else.) but she is only two years younger than me.. She was only my student for about two months and then she had to transfer classes due to her schedule and family needs. I maybe saw her in passing a few times after she transferred. But her here I am moment where I became aware of her came two years after she had left the school and started as a private Facebook message where she wanted to meet up to ask me some questions about a business that she was wanting to start with a friend. That meeting led to us being friends and hanging out while she was trying to set me up with her sisters... Long, long story short I let her know that I was not interested in her sisters, I was in to her. Badda bing badda boom we got married in 2016 and I have never looked back.
Sometimes you got to let things happen...